olivia and the real boy

I don't usually write stuff on a week day but tonight... Just watched Lars and the real girl. A real warm fuzzy movie. Interestig idea - a man develops a delusional disorder and takes a sex doll for real girlfriend. But it was the way that the community pulled together, for the sake of him, that was truly movinng. It was ironic that Lars was so reclusive, yet so many around him, care enough about him, to care for his "girlfriend". I wondered if he used the reclusiveess to elicit care, so at least he knew his sister in law would care for him. On one hand, he long for relationship. On the other hand, he was frightened he would be abandoned, yet again, like his mother did, or be rejected, like his depressed father was. In so many ways, a sex doll provided the need for "someone" but avoided the possibility of rejectioni. Little did he know that rejection is just inherent in ANY kind of "relationship". People die, leave, or worse still, just change. May be that's why hugs hurt - once you get used to the warmth of a embrace, it'll always be cold when it's let go. I suppose he had been a very nice guy, anxious and a bit odd, but well meaning nonetheless. May be that's why his community were so willing to rally for him. Well, in real life, the complete opposite would probably happen. I woder if the wintry setting is a hint at the temperature of normal human relationships. Maybe that's why I "get so lonely I forget what day it is and how to spell my name". I, shamefully, admit that I almost envy him. Lars is loved by so many. I guess I wondered, where is my dorkish wee boy to go for a walk with...